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PORN CAUSING ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION IN YOUNG MEN
by Hannah James and Sean O'Shea
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Part 1 of 4

[Transcribed from the video by Tara Carreon]

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[Hannah James] It's a disturbing byproduct of the Internet age: healthy young men who suffer from sexual dysfunction because of an addiction to online pornography. It's a condition that causes shame, depression, even thoughts of suicide.

The appeal of doctrines (on the right or the left of the political spectrum) that glorify violence can be understood more readily if we recognize their close relationship to commonly held stereotypes of masculinity. In our culture, as in many others, violence is often taken as evidence of the toughness and aggressiveness, the lack of sentimentality, and the emotional stoicism that males are expected to demonstrate. Thus the readiness to proclaim or endorse the glories of violence is often a response to the perceived requirements of the male sex role; to shy away from violence is to fail a challenge to prove one's manliness. Similarly, those who feel particularly oppressed by their powerlessness and lack of personal agency may resort to violence because they see it as a way of regaining their lost manhood.

-- Violence Without Moral Restraint: Reflections on the Dehumanization of Victims and Victimizers, by Herbert C. Kelman


So they turn to drugs like Viagra to restore normal sexuality instead of seeking treatment for their addiction. Tonight, Sean O'Shea has a candid account of one of these men who agreed to tell a story to 16x9.

GENERATION X-RATED, producer Hannah James

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[Sean O'Shea] Gabe Deem is strong, athletic and all-American. You could say he's the picture of male virility.

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But three years ago, this is how this 26-year-old from Irving, Texas spent most days:

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in front of his computer alone, enveloped in an x-rated fantasy world.

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[Gabe Deem] When I was around 8 years old, I was walking around my neighborhood on just a normal day.

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I was walking around and I found a Playboy magazine sitting under a bush. And I still remember when I first saw it. I was completely captivated by it. Seeing a naked woman when I was 8 years old just captivated me and blew my mind.

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[Sean O'Shea] A normal discovery and curiosity, soon became an all-consuming obsession.

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[Gabe Deem] Things got really bad when I was around 12. And this was when my family got Internet, high-speed Internet.

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I had unlimited access to the most hardcore porn you can think of.

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So what I would do was, I would get out of Middle School and come home as fast as I could and watch porn, look up whatever I could for about three or four hours before my parents got home from work.

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[Sean O'Shea] Alone in his room, mesmerized, it was an online world he couldn't turn his eyes away from. It also shaped his view of sex and girls.

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[Gabe Deem] I became sexually active also when I was 14ish. And I immediately began to treat girls as sex objects.

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I just kind of used them and objectified them. And I do think that porn played a huge part in that.

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[Sean O'Shea] Through his teens and into his 20s, that attitude got worse.

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A boy's fascination with sex turned into a compulsion.

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[Gabe Deem] I was so addicted to pornography that I literally refused to go spend time with my family on Thanksgiving.

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It led me to a point where I would rather ...

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sit at home and get all my pleasure from a screen ...

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than actually talk face-to-face with people who I love spending time with.

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[Sean O'Shea] Gabe didn't realize how bad his porn addiction was until one day he discovered his body was failing him at the most basic level.

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[Gabe Deem] I never really noticed that porn was becoming a problem until my wiener no longer worked.

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When I was 23 years old, I was with a gorgeous girl who I found extremely attractive, and we went for sex and nothing happened.

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I couldn't get turned on at all. And you know, I freaked out.

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[Dr. Abraham Morgentaler] I'm worried, I'm worried about the impact of porn on men and on women.

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[Sean O'Shea] Dr. Abraham Morgentaler is a urologist and director of the Men's Health Clinic in Boston.

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He sees a whole generation of young men just like Gabe, with unlimited access to porn ...

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and that is causing a new condition called Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction.

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[To Dr. Morgentaler] What's wrong with porn when it comes to a man's ability to have a successful sex life?

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[Dr. Abraham Morgentaler] A lot of the men who grow up now watching Internet porn or anything else ...

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learn their sexuality and how to get stimulated down there in a way that is not mimicked by actual sex.

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What porn has figured out is what really works for the brain of the guys.

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It's the maximum stimulus.

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[Sean O'Shea] But that maximum stimulus can interfere with how a man gets aroused. Morgentaler remembers the days when impotence was a taboo subject.

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[Dr. Abraham Morgentaler] Nobody would talk. Conversations in the office were awkward and stilted. And then, Boom! Viagra came out in 1998. And the next thing you know is everybody's talking about this thing at the water coolers, and it changed everything.

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[Viagra ad] Good morning!

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Good morning!

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We talked the whole night through.

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Good morning!

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Good morning to you!

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[Sean O'Shea] Ads for viagra, that new miracle drug, started popping up everywhere.

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But it was targeted exclusively to older men.

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Now, a lot of young guys ...

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are trying to get their hands on that little blue pill, too.

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[Dr. Abraham Morgentaler] I get men who come in to see me, often young men ...

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who actually have no problems whatsoever sexually ...

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and they're coming in and they are asking for these pills.

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Re: Porn Causing Erectile Dysfunction in Young Men, by Hanna

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Part 2 of 4

[Gabe Deem] I think it's slapping a bandaid on the wound that's deeper than that.

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Some guys can maybe get a little confidence boost from taking pills, but if you have severe porn induced ED, it's not going to help.

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The bottom line is young 20-year-old men or teenagers shouldn't be taking sexual enhancement pills.

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They should naturally be good to go.

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[Sean O'Shea] Gabe went looking for answers and found out there are a lot of guys like him.

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This site, YourBrainOnPorn.com, draws more than 20,000 new hits a day from 80 countries worldwide.

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Guys desperate for answers.

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Some are even suicidal.

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[Gabe Deem] I did what any boy would do. I went home and started googling, and that led me to a forum where I saw thousands of guys talking about the same problem.

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They are young, healthy, they have a partner that they are attracted to but they can't get turned on.

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And you know, that resonated with me, and I was like, "That's me!"

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[Sean O'Shea] Gabe started piecing things together, and discovered he was suffering from Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction and there's a test for that.

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[Gabe Deem] First, see if you can get hard to porn, which I knew I could, and then see if you can get hard to just your touch alone, no porn, no fantasy.

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And I hadn't done this since I was like 13. So I ran into the bathroom and tried it. I'm sitting there using my hand, trying to get hard, and I couldn't. I could not get an erection without Internet porn.

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So I freaked out thinking, no way could porn be the cause. So I ran back to my room. I turned on porn to just double-check ...

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and BAM!, I could get an erection.

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[Sean O'Shea] Now he knew what the problem was. And like so many other guys, he hoped medication would be the solution.

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[Gabe Deem] I took Viagra and I took Cialis, and it didn't have any effect on me.

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And that's because Viagra helps with blood flow to the penis, but when you have porn-induced ED ...

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your problem's in the brain, not below the belt.

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[Sean O'Shea] Suddenly, Gabe had terrifying doubts about his future.

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[Gabe Deem] I thought I was never going to be able to have sex again.

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I thought I was never going to be able to get married, have kids, have a family, make love to my wife, you know?

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Yeah, that was really like a kick to the gut.

[Sean O'Shea] NEXT, HOW GUYS ARE REBOOTING ...
TO GET IT BACK IN THE BEDROOM

[Gabe Deem] After two or three months of no porn, no masturbation, I still had no libido, and I still had ED. And so I started freaking out.

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[Sean O'Shea] Heading out to hook up looks like this for lots of young guys:

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wallet, keys and viagra.

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[Andrew Hall] Yeah, if I wanted to ask out a girl, I would probably take it.

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[Sean O'Shea] Andrew Hall, an ordinary guy ...

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packs his Cialis pills for a date. He's part of a whole new wave of young men who feel the pressure to perform right off the bat.

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[Andrew Hall] Cialis and viagra and things like that are normal.

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That's a normal thing now for guys, even my age, to be on that.

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The hookup culture today is a little big.

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I think because of pornography, girls feel a need to compete.

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They want to be as desirable as the porn, and so they've upped their sexuality.

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You know you don't date for a few months and get to know them and then have sex with them. You have sex with them the first night.
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Part 3 of 4

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[Dr. Abraham Morgentaler] Sometimes you feel like there's a gun to their head! So sometimes if the man says, "Doc, I'm out there dating.

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The women are telling me what they like, how they like it, how often they like it -- I just need something to keep up!

[Sean O'Shea] Dr. Abraham Morgentaler is director of the Men's Health Clinic in Boston.

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He said the expectation of an instant hookup can destroy a relationship even before it starts.

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[Dr. Abraham Morgentaler] Often the couple has sex before they know even whether they like each other.

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And what happens is that if sex doesn't work out ...

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if the man has an erection problem, for example ...

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that's actually a hard thing to do before there are any bonds between the man and the woman.

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[Sean O'Shea] And so if it doesn't work out, that relationship doesn't develop. Is that what you're saying?

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[Dr. Abraham Morgentaler] That's right.

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So they may bounce to the next person.

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[Andrew Hall] Yeah, very upsetting. You got this girl, and she's like BOOM!, you know.

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And you're just like ... it kind of sucks. It's a horrible feeling.

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[Sean O'Shea] That horrible feeling Ed was talking about stems from porn-inducted erectile dysfunction ...

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and the pressure to perform right away only makes it worse.

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[Andrew Hall] Finally I had a relationship where I was going to get sexual, and it felt like nothing. It felt like, it almost felt foreign. Like it was completely foreign to me. Like, this is not how I get turned on. I'm used to looking at porn.

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[Sean O'Shea] At age 23, Gabe Deem had the same problem. He tried viagra and cialis, but that didn't work. The reality is, for young men suffering from porn-induced ED the recovery is a long, agonizing process, like kicking any addiction.

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[Gabe Deem] A few weeks after I gave up porn, withdrawal hit me really hard. It took me 9 months to recover.

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[Sean O'Shea] He had to cut off all sources of artificial stimulation.

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In online communities where thousands of men look for answers, it's called "rebooting."

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[Gabe Deem] I saw these guys' advice saying that if you stop watching porn your ED will go away in 6 to 8 weeks. So I said, okay, I'll quit watching porn and see what happens. And after two or three months of no porn, no masturbation, I still had no libido, and I still had ED. And so I started freaking out.

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[Sean O'Shea] To hear Gabe describe it ...

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withdrawal from porn addiction sounds a lot like withdrawal from drugs or alcohol.

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[Gabe Deem] You know, two or three weeks after I gave up porn, my stress went through the roof. And I became real anxious, irritated. I couldn't focus on anything. I had severe brain fog. And I even had insomnia, where I couldn't sleep. There was a time at the lowest of the low where I was at work, and I literally just lost my mind and had a panic attack.

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My muscles were shaking.

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I went outside of work, in the alley, and just started crying my eyes out.

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This period of time when I was recovering was just super dark. Very depressing.

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I had, you know, two or three months in after not recovering, I had suicidal thoughts. You know, I was afraid as a young 23-year-old guy that I was never going to recover. And that was scary.

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[Sean O'Shea] After nearly a year of struggling, Gabe finally started to regain control over his body.

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[Gabe Deem] Around the six month mark, I started seeing little sparks of libido ...

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and I saw some signs of improvement ...

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and so that little glimpse of hope, you know, gave me the encouragement to keep on going.

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And then, yeah, once I was able to fully get an erection, I was super-thrilled, and the reboot worked.

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Now my whole mindset around sex changed ...

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and it became more about love, and not lust.

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I started to see women in a totally different light, and I could see them as an equal human being, and not just an object anymore.

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[Sean O'Shea] With a successful reboot behind him, and in a healthy relationship, Gabe could simply move on. But he knows there are still a lot of young men who are suffering.

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Andrew is seven weeks into his own reboot.

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[Andrew Hall] I haven't decided yet whether I'm going to continue to use Cialis. I might if a girl came around and I didn't know if I was fully rebooted.

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I feel like I could be partially rebooted, but I don't know where I stand. It's 48 days, but a few little mixups here and there, so I don't know.

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[Gabe Deem] Seeing the need and hearing the pain from all these guys that are, you know, suicidal, depressed, and just freaking out, that really drove me to share my story even more. And I've found that it's really not that taboo any more to talk about.

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The more honest and open I am about my story, I can tell and see it in people's faces there like, "Wow, really?" or they'll just relate to it.

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[Hannah James] Gabe Deem has launched a website, rebootnation.org, to help young men recover like he did. If you want to learn more about this story, join us for a live web chat with Gabe and other experts on this subject, starting at 8:00 p.m. Eastern starting this Monday at Globalnews.ca. We'll be right back.
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Part 4 of 4

In 1998, Judy Garland’s classic song “Good Morning” made a comeback as the catchy, upbeat soundtrack to Viagra’s breakout ad campaign. At the time, it was seen as a miracle cure for erectile dysfunction, and had older men dancing in the streets.

But now, 16 years later, a generation of young men are seeking out that magic blue pill.

Gabe Deem, from Irving, Texas is one of them.

Three years ago, only 23 years old and already suffering from erectile dysfunction, Deem sought out Viagra and Cialis. Deem said years of watching internet pornography left him with a condition known as porn-induced erectile dysfunction, or PIED.

“I would get out of middle school and come home as fast as I could, and watch porn – look up whatever I could for about three or four hours before my parents got home from work,” he said. “I was watching every type of porn that you could think of by the time I was out of middle school.”

Deem never realized his porn habit was a problem until it began to affect his sexual health. “I was 23 years old, I was with a gorgeous girl who I found extremely attractive, we went for sex and nothing happened. I couldn’t get turned on at all,” said Deem. “I freaked out.”

Seeking out erectile dysfunction medications, Deem hoped he could find a quick fix for his problem. “I took Viagra and I took Cialis and it didn’t have any effect on me. And that’s because…your problem is in the brain not below the belt,” he said.

Deem went online to look for help and soon realized PIED affects a huge number of young men who, like him, grew up in the internet age with unfettered access to pornography. What he found was thousands of men writing in online forums, such as http://www.reddit.com/r/nofap, or “YourBrainRebalanced.com” about their sexual dysfunction.

“I’m worried, I’m worried about the impact of porn on men and on women,” said Dr. Abraham Morgentaler, Urologist and Director of Men’s Health Boston.

“I see young men coming in who are really confused about what normal is because all they know about sex is what they’ve seen on porn,” he said. Morgentaler spoke to 16×9 correspondent Sean O’Shea about the changing culture of sexuality and dating.

“Once upon a time in the Victorian age when women wore long gowns…it was considered to be really sexy when a man saw a turn of an ankle. That was enough for men to go and write sonnets and all of these other things. Then, we went through the mini-skirt phase in the 60s and all that and we talked about, this is the apocalypse is coming, and oh my God this is so sexualized,” he said.

“Now we have it where everybody’s got a computer or even a smart phone and you’re on the internet you can see whatever you want,” he said. “There’s no surprises…I think that the concern is, what porn has figured out is what really works for the brain of the guys. It’s the maximum stimulus,” said Morgentaler.

That “maximum stimulus” is what guys talk about most online. Having access to watch whatever you want, whenever you want, causes changes in the way a man’s body responds to dopamine levels. Emerging research out of Cambridge University revealed that the brains of men who watch excessive amounts of online pornography appear similar to those of alcoholics and drugs addicts.

Deem believes his sexual dysfunction was definitely caused by addiction to online pornography that left him unstimulated by real sex.

But there is a way back. For Deem, it was a long, sometimes agonizing nine-month process – a process that’s called “rebooting”.

“When a porn addict goes through withdrawal it’s typically stress, anxiety-related, so two to three weeks after I gave up porn my stress went through the roof and I became real anxious, irritated, I couldn’t focus on anything…I even had insomnia where I couldn’t sleep,” said Deem.

Deem cut out porn and masturbation completely and focused on keeping busy and physically active. At times he wondered if he would ever recover, but he pressed on. “I kept on rebooting is what we call it when we cut off porn and try and reboot our brains so to say, basically regain sensitivity,” he said.

Finally, he did.

“To know that I was able to be cured was a huge relief,” said Deem. “I can’t really even describe the feeling.”

Deem recently launched a blog with videos, a forum, and tips and information on how to reboot.

“I get messages pretty regularly from guys who are freaking out, some of them are suicidal…they’re not getting the answers they need,” said Deem. “They’ll go to the doctor and go ‘doc I can’t get an erection’ and they’ll slap them a pack of Viagra and say don’t worry about it, it’s all in your head, it’s performance anxiety.”

Deem said his website fills a need for guys to talk anonymously and openly about their issue and hopefully find reassurance they can regain a normal and healthy sexuality, without turning to Viagra as an attempt at a quick fix.

“I think it’s slapping a bandaid on a wound that’s deeper than that…I really think it’s not focusing on the core issue,” said Deem. “The bottom line is young 20-year-old men or teenagers shouldn’t be taking sexual enhancement pills. They should naturally be good to go if you’re young and healthy.”

[Transcript of video prepared by Tara Carreon]

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[Gabe Deem] When I was around 8 years old, I was walking around my neighborhood on just a normal day. I was walking around and I found a Playboy magazine sitting under a bush. And I still remember when I first saw it. I was completely captivated by it. Seeing a naked woman when I was 8 years old just captivated me and blew my mind. And right away I was hooked on the idea of sex. And I loved everything about the pictures that I was watching, or looking at.

Things got really bad when I was around 12. And this was when my family got Internet, high-speed Internet. I just turned 26, and this was back in 1999, maybe 2000, right when DSL and broadband came out. And so right when I was going through puberty, I had unlimited access to the most hardcore porn you can think of. So what I would do was, I would get out of Middle School and come home as fast as I could and watch porn, look up whatever I could for about three or four hours before my parents got home from work. And that's one thing I should mention is that as a kid I didn't have any traumatic experiences or abuse or anything like that that led me to seek porn to like numb the pain. I just had access to it. I could simply come home from school, and I was a boy, and I liked looking at naked girls, and I could do that.

I knew how to hide it. The kids at school would pass pieces of paper with websites or wherever we could find the best porn sites, and even give tips on how to hide it from our parents. So the reality is, that is what I was doing was watching every type of porn you could think of by the time I was out of Middle School.

[Interviewer] When did you finally get a sense that this was becoming a problem for you?

[Gabe Deem] I never really noticed that porn was becoming a problem until my wiener no longer worked. Looking back through high school and college, as my porn use increased, my motivation and drive for live decreased. But I never noticed that. I thought it was normal, that I was just an normal college punk kid that didn't care about anything. You know, a rebel.

So that never caught my attention. But what caught my attention was eventually I couldn't get turned on by a girl anymore. And ultimately this led to a time when I was 23 years old, I was with a gorgeous girl who I found extremely attractive, and we went for sex and nothing happened. I couldn't get turned on at all.

[Interviewer] What do you think about young guys getting prescribed Viagra when they can't get it up?

[Gabe Deem] I think it's slapping a bandaid on the wound that's deeper than that. Some guys can maybe get a little confidence boost from taking pills, but if you have severe porn induced ED, it's not going to help. So I really think it's not focusing on the core issue. The bottom line is young 20-year-old men or teenagers shouldn't be taking sexual enhancement pills. They should naturally be good to go if you're young and healthy. So really it's just not focusing on the core problem, because all these guys have to do is just stop watching porn and recover.

[Interviewer] How did you get Viagra and Cialis?

[Gabe Deem] I actually got it shadily from a friend of a friend of a friend. And during that process, I found out that there is a very big market for this. Lots of young guys are trading Viagra and Cialis at nightclubs just to get it up for a one night stand, or whatever. There's a lot of young guys taking Viagra now that shouldn't need it.


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