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Then, they would read their FBI file and see the words "armed and dangerous" next to their names, along with the notation "Reed may be involved in Mexican and/or South American drug trafficking and may now be residing in Guadalajara, Mexico." Preposterous, Terry thought, this is what he had caught the CIA doing! In intelligence parlance, this is called "transference," a technique of making a "pre-emptive strike" on someone to neutralize damaging information he might possess. You simply accuse the other person of doing what you've done. It was killing him knowing what they were doing.
-- Compromised: Clinton, Bush and the CIA: How the Presidency was Co-opted by the CIA, by Terry Reed & John Cummings
The sociopath will always accuse you of doing the very thing that they are guilty of themselves. They do this to deflect the attention from them. Examples of this are: Accusing you of cheating; Accusing you of being dishonest or lying; Accusing you of talking about them; Accusing you of doing whatever it is that they are guilty of themselves. The sociopath has a bizarre ability to be able to make YOU feel guilty and feel like you have to defend yourself… for things that he has done. You see the sociopath is actually fairly intelligent. He knows that whilst you are busy defending yourself, and proving your innocence, you will be confused, and will forget about the real issue, the truth that you are close to uncovering about the sociopath.
Bullshit Bingo: It’s all a game to the sociopath. Life is a game. With little inside themselves, they spend most of their life playing stupid mind games. Accusing you of things that they have done themselves is something that they will do over and over again. The result for you the victim is: Feeling confused; Feeling violated; Feeling misunderstood; Feeling unheard; Feeling guilty. Likely he will also say ‘everyone thinks, or says….’ – so you feel isolated too. Afterwards, after wasted hours protesting your innocence, you think: How did that happen? The truth is right there. You are relieved that the constant questions and accusations have stopped. There is peace again. Once again, the sociopath has managed to manipulate the situation, and deflect blame back onto you. You have spent another few hours of your time, stressed, anxious and defending your corner. You feel that yet again there was yet another problem that didn’t need to be there. Some other issue, that didn’t need to be there. But for the sociopath, it isn’t like that. He is playing a game. Playing a game with your mind and your heart.
There are two things that are important to the sociopath: Winning; Control. If you were to catch him out in a lie, he would neither win, or be in control. So he will do anything that he can do, to win the game, and control the game. That is all that it is. The sociopath probably doesn’t even realise the effect that this has on you. After all, he never thinks about your needs, and this is in terms of both good and bad things. He, like always, is thinking about himself, not about you, your welfare or your needs. It is all just a game. A stupid, mindless game. That could continue for the rest of your life if you let it.
Isn’t it time to move forward? To stop playing the stupid game with the sociopath, who could play forever. If you let him. The sociopath doesn’t feel too much, but he does feel satisfaction from: Winning; Being in control. Maybe right now it is time to stop playing the game. To finish the game. Stop playing. It is now time to focus on you. On your needs and your welfare. After all. when you were with the sociopath, so much of your time and energy was wasted, defending yourself, and playing pointless mind games, nobody was taking care of your needs. Endless stress and endless drama. that is the relationship with the sociopath. There comes a time, when the only thing to do, is to put in place no contact rules, stick to them, and focus on you, and loving yourself and creating your own beautiful world. A world where there isn’t someone constantly trying to pull you apart. You deserve so much better